NoThanksForTheMemories (original poster member #83278) posted at 5:56 AM on Thursday, December 18th, 2025
I find that as I go through the divorce process, I'm mostly left with a sense of anger at WS for destroying our lives so thoroughly. The actual paperwork and decision making has been fairly amicable, and we've avoided involving lawyers other than to to look over said paperwork, but this whole thing is such a huge hassle at this stage of our lives. We have to dissolve a trust, move around a bunch of investments, and it's just So. Much. Work. I think about the ways in which I could've spent this time and effort, and it makes me so irate.
What do you do with feelings like this? There's not much point communicating them to WS. Is this part of the grieving and healing process? Will the anger eventually simmer down and be replaced by relief? (Which I do feel quite often when I see WS's behavior lately - I'm glad that I won't be financially tied to him for much longer!) Should I schedule a session with my therapist just to vent?
WS had a 3 yr EA+PA from 2020-2022, and an EA 10 years ago (different AP). Dday1 Nov 2022. Dday4 Sep 2023. False R for 2.5 months. 30 years together. Divorcing.
Dorothy123 ( member #53116) posted at 6:38 AM on Thursday, December 18th, 2025
I feel you and relate and understand your frustration.
What do you do with feelings like this?
Just live with the feelings and deal with them one day at a time.
Some days better than others.
With T.I.M. E (sorry to use this dreaded four letter word) things will get better.
But slowly.
Sending hugs and strength.
"I’ll get you my pretty, and your little dog too!" Wicked Witch of the West.
