Selenite (original poster new member #87365) posted at 10:20 AM on Tuesday, July 7th, 2026
Im really struggling with not thinking about the affair partner and what happened, to make things worse I went into town last week and went to get a coffee and she was in the coffee shop and looked right at me (she doesn't know who I am or what I look like luckily) I was shaking it was awful and then today I've just been into town again and saw her again in the shop and then I quickly left the shop and then saw her again in the same coffee shop now I am raging it's like I can't get a break and have to be reminded by seeing her. Then I think I will just have to avoid that coffee shop but then I think why the fuck should I have to avoid places I like because of her and my husband it's not my fault yet I'm being punished! it's so frustrating. Sorry just needed to vent! Im trying to reconcile but it's so hard when I keep getting reminded of it!
Pogre ( member #86173) posted at 12:38 PM on Tuesday, July 7th, 2026
I've managed to avoid my wife's AP, even tho he lives about 2 miles from where we do and I drive by his complex almost every day. Not by design, but more luck I suppose. It helps that he was trespassed from my wife's work.
I don't have much in the way of words of wisdom. I just vibe with your post and can imagine how it'd make me feel to randomly bump into that piece of human garbage. I really sympathize with how it must make you feel. I'd have trouble stopping myself from slashing his tires in the parking lot.
I totally get it. Your favorite coffee shop (and general calm) is now ruined by something that's entirely not your fault. It's just another way that infidelity is the gift that keeps on giving.
Where am I going... and why am I in this handbasket?
Webbit ( member #84517) posted at 1:23 PM on Tuesday, July 7th, 2026
My WH had an affair with his coworker. Their business was a direct competitor of ours and I had previously been the manager there. Not only that their workplace was literally 500m from mine.
Their business had to shut down and therefore we took on some of their work. I had to visit their site numerous times and see her. Whilst I held my head high and put on a brave front I would shake after each and every encounter.
It is so shit that they can infiltrate our lives so much. But I hope Selenite you go back to your coffee shop and sit and face her knowing you are a superior human being by far and you deserve that fucking cup of coffee!!!!
